Monday, May 7, 2012

Mirror mirror on the wall...

Mirror mirror on the wall, whose the fairest of them all? I wish there was a truthful mirror!

This has bothered me since A WHILE - been addicted to getting dressed in my own room, I'd be convinced that I look presentable to go out but then a glance into another mirror on the way, in the car, my compact etc would leave me wondering- well I did not look this way at home.

I know the blah scientific reasons behind it- the light merely falling at its own whims in a direction available to it makes me look however it wants! The question remains - which one to believe? Is my dressing room mirror saying the truth about my appearance or just mocking me saying - ahh you think you look good huh? Nevertheless it can also be the other way round (very rarely) that you go somewhere and the mirror there makes you look prettier than the one loyal to you.

It sort off makes me think of how acquaintances are. Acquaintances to be clear are those people in my life who I know as much as I would like to know them. Their behavior is very much like the deceiving mirror theory according to me. At a certain outing/party they might be right next to you gleaming pretending like they were born to be sitting on that table next to you but at another they might be ridiculing you while you're away! So ye, that is the reason I say - which face to believe?

I'm sure most of you reading this would relate to the mirror theory. The funny part was that one of my real close friends once getting ready with me for a party said - I know we look great but maybe only within the vicinity of this mirror! And I was so relieved that someone out there feels the same way as I do. Its very much like the time when in school our teacher's nails would accidentally scratch the blackboard and I would feel really icky but couldn't see others being bothered. Till fairly long I used to believe there is something very wrong in my system to be feeling that way.

So if anyone does have a solution, please share - which mirror to believe or which face to slap ;)





4 comments:

  1. Definitely agree with the mirror theory... very interesting. Great to see someone else is also thinking what is beyond this very moment.

    If we consider the mirror to be constant and unbiased.. then the altering of images is coming from the mind itself. So the image/message from the mirror is limited by the number of dimensions a mind is able to see.

    On an outing, I go out and see people having fun... easy to label them. Fun loving people, Too much money, doing easy degrees... and so on.
    I must admit.. I generally like to give people benefit of doubt... and dont necessarily like labelling others... so the point being that it is very hard to have the unbiased perspective.

    Is it possible that one might be labelling oneself when looking in the mirror? OR can we be entirely objective when we look at the mirror and present the two (or more) sides... if we do.. what are the implications on thinking... would one close down to the presence of 'acquaintances' in their life?

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  2. I believe one settles for what one whats to see. Invariably one will believe the result of the mirror that makes him/her look better. Very similar to human perspective to friends- you might not believe a flaw in a friend but might not accept a good sign in an unknown identity. One cannot blind away from acquaintances but should know that only those who appeal will stay just like the image in the mirror thats prettier.

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  3. Well i have come across people who fake it to your face, then despise you behind your back, but eventually take a great liking to you once they get to know you better and feel that they can take you as a friend. All of us possess a natural tendency to quickly jump to judgements by taking people on face value or otherwise. Very few take a minute to stop and take a sneak-peek into the person you really are. So its not about the mirror theory but the theory of impulsive judgements that human beings are very susceptible to making. I will interpolate- Like when you feel one mirror makes you look better than the other, you might take it as you judging the mirror or vice versa. Your so called 'friends for life' were your acquaintances in the beginning. Who knows how much they would have covertly judged you or despised you before they went on to becoming your best buddies?
    So there is no face to slap or believe.
    Change is the only constant.
    Let time tell its own story.
    xxx

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